A sweet couple...

My sister in law Lily Lim and her Fiance Samuel Ong has finally taken their wedding pictures. They both look genuine and sweet...I'm realy happy for them. Congratulations Lily and Sam Can't wait till your big day...

Our Little Girl's Birthday

This is my lovely little sister (the youngest in the family) - Pauline. Knowing her fabulousness among her friends, we celebrate her birthday earlier so that she will have chance to celebrate with her friend on her birthday - 28th Mar. 

What's important is the ending...

On the first day of Chinese New Year I have forced his eldest son, went to talk to him about his affair and just to remind him to stop and avoid whoever trying to spoilt the family. He refuse to admit that he have did it. He continues treating his wife bad e.g scolding her, avoid her, leave her somewhere w/o worrying her condition, etc. These make us very angry and pissed him off. 

One day, Friday, he did not come back for dinner again as he have told us on thrusday night. In my mind he is doing it again...the first friday meeting clients, second friday meeting visitors, third friday meeting suppliers, these really pissed me off and asked him a question " How about next friday? Not coming back for dinner again?" He really said yeah next friday also not coming back and GOTCHA!!!...he is trapped with my question. When his wife question him" Ah this week you already know next week not coming back for dinner?" then only he realised I'm trying to trap him. Then only he said oh next friday no...no...

Today is Friday, when I know he is not coming back for dinner today I'm kinda angry already...whatever we said he just ignore and continue his sin...That morning he left his wife at home, when I saw her I was surprised and asked her why she didn't go work today. She said his husband will be having breakfast with client AGAIN!! he asked her to stay at home. She look so sad....I tried to listen to her...she tell me everything...and she drop her tears...finally....finally she have let go all her words from her heart which she kept all this while....she is so sad inside but outside she pretends to be a very happy mother...I promise her I will make her husband come back...and pormised her whatever happened we will be at her side...asked her not to worry...

Then he came back in the afternoon, once I saw him I can't stop myself ignoring him and showing him my angry faces. She is so scared that he will scold her again...what a woman to have such a patient...God really gave her the power...

That very night he have confessed to his wife that he is wrong. He told her everything that he have done all these while....and promise her won't do it again.

"A man should never neglect his family for business." Walt Disney

He have confessed to his wife on what he have done, because she still love him, her trust in him and her faitfullness she gave him a second chance =) 

"Trust lies at the core of love; there can be no true love without trust." M.K.Soni

God really hears our prayer....God blessed His child, God loves their mom...I'm really happy...very happy...

Thank you God for helping us and protect this family =)

"The secret to a rich life is to have more beginnings than endings." Dave Weinbaum

"A family is a place where principles are hammered and honed on the anvil of everyday living."

Charles Swindoll

He did it again...and again...

Today is friday, he have gone out since after lunch not coming back for dinner again. What I saw is just a worried wife wondering what is he doing outside but still carrying a hope and trust that her husband is doing something important praying he will be ok and be back soon. 

What a wife huh? She is such a patient woman, a woman who never doubt anything and continue caryying her trust on her beloved husband without realizing what she got back is just a betrayal from the one she trusted the most.

She told us he left her at the restaurant after lunch while he drove off to somewhere she will never know where without worrying she will be alone there. Lately he always think she's a burden to him, never wish her to follow wherever he goes. Why always the good one being bullied. 

Why always the good one be the victim to suffer every pain? And the other one enjoy his sweet time with somebody who he never realised will destroy himself. Is her loyalty and faithfulness a sin? Why is it that the one she trusted the most betrayed her? Why these things happened? Aren't he realised that what he is doing will hurt the family badly? The older the man the wiser he is....why isn;t he wiser enough...

Maybe God have given her the power not to see, not to hear, not to think, not to doubt, God have given her the power to continue trust in him, God have given her the highest level of patient so that he will realise himself that he have done something wrong one day. 

Is ignorance an answer to all these matter? Where is her  dignity as a woman and a mom? Maybe these is the best solution:- to be silent, to be patient, acting don't know anything......if i'm her I don't think I can calm down myself. I will stand for my own right. Maybe this will caused a disaster to the family...I really respect her....once I realise she is powerful woman.

Is that what I saw is true? What should I do?

I respect him as a father, as a good husband, as a good family man but I will never believe myself that I discovered he have an affair. He always talk secretly on the phone almost every evening, hiding himself somewhere no one would figure it out what he is doing but too bad he has been caught by me. Few times I tried to peep and eavesdrop from somewhere near hopefully get to listen what is the conversation about and why is that so secretive. All I hear is just whispering thru the trees plus some laughter and giggles. I know I shouldn't but.....I really don't want the same thing happened to me happen to them. 

For once I have tried to ignore but seems like he is getting more brave to do it more often now. This time I'm gonna catch him myself. While he is on the phone with that "somebody" I purposely go near him, and Gotcha!!...he quickly hung up. This is too obvious that "somebody" he is talking to is undiscoverable. Lately he always dressed in a certain manner, far more different from the normal him. He dislike his wife to walk near him or sit near him when they are in public. Went outstation without on his mobile phone, going out to meet someone who he always says she is a "visitor", sometimes not coming back for dinner, and dislike his wife to ask where he goes everytime. Are these the indications of him having an affair? I really not sure...

To side her - I felt unfair for his wife who is a nice decent woman, faithful to him all the time, innocent, caring, loving, capable....what else that she has lacked off? One thing I've realised....its her dressing, her appearance...is that a very important point that she has missed out?  Is that the reason he has to have an affair? This is really ridiculous to me. A husband should love his wife no matter how she become where this is one of the vows made before they became husband and wife. She did realised he always talk on the phone secretly, every night he SMS'ing by the bed when they are sleeping side by side on the bed, also realised he has been going out secretly few times and meeting up somebody somewhere...but she still herself as a nice decent woman, faithful, innocent...emotionless. 

To side him - Who have a wife who never care of her appearance, never care how people think of him if he walk with her in the public, felt ashamed to walk with his own wife. A man who needs pleasure and pride. He still cares for the family, take good care of everything in the house. So it is ok. 

but still.....

Seems like everybody around still dreaming and never realise such things has happened in their dreamland. What will happened in the future I really don't know. Should I do something? What should I do? Is ignorance an answer to this matter? She do not dare to find out...I think she is scared to discover...

What should I do? If I don't do anything what if things get worse and that somebody came to spoilt everything? What if I did something then things at first not that serious then become a disaster?......please advice me....I really don't wish they will go thru the path I;ve have gone thru...

A: I should just continue peep from far and ignore whatever I saw.

B: Should I bring this out to the family and discuss this issue so that they realised what is happening.

C: Should I SMS him to remind him the importance of his family and not to do anything to betray them.

D: Sit quietly and listen...watch the drama till it ends.