Friday, January 23, 2009

Is that what I saw is true? What should I do?


I respect him as a father, as a good husband, as a good family man but I will never believe myself that I discovered he have an affair. He always talk secretly on the phone almost every evening, hiding himself somewhere no one would figure it out what he is doing but too bad he has been caught by me. Few times I tried to peep and eavesdrop from somewhere near hopefully get to listen what is the conversation about and why is that so secretive. All I hear is just whispering thru the trees plus some laughter and giggles. I know I shouldn't but.....I really don't want the same thing happened to me happen to them. 

For once I have tried to ignore but seems like he is getting more brave to do it more often now. This time I'm gonna catch him myself. While he is on the phone with that "somebody" I purposely go near him, and Gotcha!!...he quickly hung up. This is too obvious that "somebody" he is talking to is undiscoverable. Lately he always dressed in a certain manner, far more different from the normal him. He dislike his wife to walk near him or sit near him when they are in public. Went outstation without on his mobile phone, going out to meet someone who he always says she is a "visitor", sometimes not coming back for dinner, and dislike his wife to ask where he goes everytime. Are these the indications of him having an affair? I really not sure...

To side her - I felt unfair for his wife who is a nice decent woman, faithful to him all the time, innocent, caring, loving, capable....what else that she has lacked off? One thing I've realised....its her dressing, her appearance...is that a very important point that she has missed out?  Is that the reason he has to have an affair? This is really ridiculous to me. A husband should love his wife no matter how she become where this is one of the vows made before they became husband and wife. She did realised he always talk on the phone secretly, every night he SMS'ing by the bed when they are sleeping side by side on the bed, also realised he has been going out secretly few times and meeting up somebody somewhere...but she still herself as a nice decent woman, faithful, innocent...emotionless. 

To side him - Who have a wife who never care of her appearance, never care how people think of him if he walk with her in the public, felt ashamed to walk with his own wife. A man who needs pleasure and pride. He still cares for the family, take good care of everything in the house. So it is ok. 

but still.....

Seems like everybody around still dreaming and never realise such things has happened in their dreamland. What will happened in the future I really don't know. Should I do something? What should I do? Is ignorance an answer to this matter? She do not dare to find out...I think she is scared to discover...

What should I do? If I don't do anything what if things get worse and that somebody came to spoilt everything? What if I did something then things at first not that serious then become a disaster?......please advice me....I really don't wish they will go thru the path I;ve have gone thru...

A: I should just continue peep from far and ignore whatever I saw.
B: Should I bring this out to the family and discuss this issue so that they realised what is happening.
C: Should I SMS him to remind him the importance of his family and not to do anything to betray them.
D: Sit quietly and listen...watch the drama till it ends.

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